After being in a relationship for 6 years, if you are not heard for any reason, then the heart hurts, and that too when both of you have dreamed of living together.
Question:
I used to love a boy of other caste for 6 years, he also loved me truely. He also respected me and my family. We both weaved many dreams. Even my family members were about to come to talk about our relationship that suddenly he got a call and he said crying that I can not see you and your family in danger . You forget me thinking that I have cheated on you.
I started crying loudly on the phone after hearing these words of him, then he said that I cannot tell you my helplessness but I will love you for the rest of my life. Try to understand me if possible.
Answer:
After being in a relationship for 6 years, if you do not listen to it for any reason, then the heart hurts, and that too when both of you have dreamed of living together.
It is not understood that how suddenly the right things got turned upside down. Often in the case of love in another caste, it happens that either the two lovers are killed or they are threatened and removed. From your point of view, it seems that he is talking about going away from you and your family because of some compulsion so that there is no harm on you because of that. In such a situation, it is important that you talk together rather than relying only on the talk of the phone. With this, your fears will also go away, and you will be able to move ahead in life by making your mind firm, otherwise, you will keep thinking for the whole life that why did he do this to you.
Ruckus over marriage outside caste
In our country, the number of intercaste love marriages i.e. those who marry outside the caste is still only 5 percent. 95 percent people marry within their own caste. A recent study by the National Council of Applied Economic Research and the University of Maryland shows that 95 per cent of marriages in India take place within one's caste. This study is based on a survey conducted by Indian Human Development in 2011-12. In this survey, 41,554 houses built in 33 states and union territories, urban and rural areas were included. When the women of these houses were asked whether you had an intercaste marriage, only 5 percent of the women answered yes. The situation in towns is slightly better than in rural areas. Among those who married within their own caste, the number of people from Madhya Pradesh was the highest i.e. 99 percent, while this number was 98 percent in Himachal Pradesh and Chhattisgarh.
Marriage outside caste is legally recognized in India. The law has already been passed 50 years ago regarding intercaste marriage, yet people are unable to muster the courage to do so. The important reason for this is that by doing so, people of their own community make life difficult for these people. The family members of Kajal, who hails from Jharkhand, were beaten up just because Kajal had a love marriage with a boy named Subodh Kumar of another caste.
It's been 2 years since this thing. Both were adults at the time of marriage and this relationship was also approved by their family members, yet other people of their community could not digest this. He was threatened by some bullies in the village. He had also demanded Rs. On May 16, 2016, the anger of the society boiled so much that 4-5 people took sticks and attacked Kajal's father S. reached Prajapati's house. Kajal's parents and both the brothers were first taken hostage and then they were thrashed fiercely. The injured family reached the police station crying. This fate of listening to the voice of the heart has not only happened to Kajal but there are thousands of young couples who have had to face punishment for marrying outside their caste. They are tortured physically and mentally so much that they sometimes even commit suicide after getting exhausted and the people who do all this are usually not their family members but their caste and village people.
Just imagine, there are about 3 thousand castes and 25 thousand sub-castes in India. At the time of marriage, not only the caste but also the sub-caste has to be taken care of. After this, it is obvious that every person has his own special choice. He also has to see the particular language, financial condition, profession, age, social background etc. Obviously, in the midst of all this, it becomes very difficult to choose your life partner. The result of this is that the principle of demand and supply starts working and the price of boys starts touching the sky in the marriage market. From here other social evils also start growing.
Reviewed by Sudhir Kumar
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July 07, 2021
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