Husband, son and friend all three are angry with me, how to get out of this situation?

I have no problem with my friend's daughter but I don't know why I am not agreeing to this marriage. I feel that the expectations that I have about my own daughter-in-law will be fulfilled or not.

Question

My friend's daughter and my son want to marry each other. It happened that both of them had the same college, where they fell in love with each other. I have no problem with my friend's daughter but I don't know why I am not agreeing to this marriage. I feel that the expectations that I have about my own daughter-in-law will be fulfilled or not. When I talked to my friend about this, she got angry at me and now she has broken the relationship. The son is also not talking to me, not even the husband and not even the friend. How do I get out of this situation?

answer

Look, you have not only disturbed the lives of children laughing and playing, but have also caused pain to your friend. Your fear that as a daughter-in-law, a friend's daughter will not be able to fulfill the expectations, is meaningless because it is almost impossible to predict in advance who will do what these days. In this situation, it is possible that you should apologize to your friend and tell her that whatever you said as a mother, she listened to you as a mother, not as a friend was. Now if you have made a mistake, then realize that and reconnect the relationship, you can do so much for the sake of your children.